Transforming Our Habits

Have you ever realized how intrinsic our habits can be in our daily life that we don’t even recognize them? And what about the impact that they can have in regarding to living the life that we really want. Are they positive?

Mostly they are familiar and hence give us a ‘sense of control’ in our routine, but have you ever thought that to grow we need to allow ourselves to explore the unknown? And if our habits give us a sense of familiarity, what about to go beyond them? Be aware of what really matters to us means having the choice to open new possibilities.

So, maybe it’s time to think about which contributions those habits bring to the achievement of our aspirations. If they don’t take from us the time that we could be using to act towards our goals that is fine. The problem is when they do stop us to act productively – what happen most of the time.

If we understand the importance of our habits we may realize that we can convert them in our favour. For example, if we know that to be more confident to our next presentation we need to cover a more extensive bibliography but we don’t really have the habit to read, we can try to transform the reading process as an activity that consciously was chosen to benefit us toward our personal or professional success.

On the other hand we don’t need to change our habits from one day to another. The process is gradual but consistent. So, for example, if we realize that the time we spend on the transport could be a good opportunity to read, the challenge would be to make it constant, especially because it will be generating a positive outcome due a conscious choice. However, if reading is still a boring activity we can start from the subjects that most interest us until reading becomes a pleasant habit.

Furthermore, to transform our habits we need to be at the control of our attention and hence of our actions, what allow us to optimize our time to focus in what is important to us, increasing not just our sense of achievement but generating a positive progress towards our dreams, where we can expanding our experiences and hence fulfilling our lives. However, to achieve this desired state of mind we may need personal support and coaching can be seen here as the most unique partnership to help us to make those changes happen.

It is this process of supporting that offer us the opportunity to commit ourselves loud, where we know that someone is there standing for us, helping us to see new perspectives. The coach assists us to design a future path but also helps us to carry out actions in the present, so we are more likely to achieve our desired objectives.

Moving Forward

To move toward our dreams we must have aspirations, and to have aspirations we need to be able to acknowledge what we have done so far and celebrate each step, for more arduous that it has been. To forgive ourselves for not having been able to have done differently is the key for a new positive start, no matter what we have experienced but what we have learnt.

To move forward to the next step we need to think, think for ourselves about changes that must take place no matter how much we have to do. To build a dream takes time and to put the right effort we need to give us space to think, to elaborate the following steeps which will led us to achieve our goals.

The process to think for ourselves is challengeable and most of the time request focus and support. The focus is related to our ability to be fully present, or at least, be able to manage our stress and anxiety in order to free our attention to be positive and productive. However, most of the time to be at the control of our mind request externalization and we do need to have someone who can listens to us.

The support can be finding with a friend capable of listening without interruptions or the rush to conclude our ideas before we think about them. Someone that can listen to us just because they are generous enough to let us think about whatever is important for us at any given time and situation.

However, if there isn’t anyone who can give us this precious space and attention, just because it is so hard to listen without jumping on conclusion or judgments, or because everyone is so busy that doesn’t have time even to listen to themselves, we can count with professionals that chose to be a Life Coach by vocation, by passion in helping us to unlock our potentialities to discover what will be the best next steep to take.

It is wonderful to know that speaking allows us to think better, more clearly and intelligently. While we don’t externalize our thoughts they are just seeds of ideas that need to grow, be developed and flourish. This is why is so important to talk because allows us to think better, to listen to ourselves and realize that what we say make sense.

Choosing Our Freedom

When you are in a situation that you need to take decision and make changes happen, which sort of possibilities pop up automatically in your mind? Can you move from the worse to the best options easily, or you tend to spend lots of time figuring out the difficulties? If we are not able to go beyond our negative pattern thoughts we can spend all our energy fearing step forward instead of acting towards our goals.

Accepting that it is up to us to be aware of our presence here and now - where everything happens - we can start shifting our pattern thoughts and hence our behaviour in a positive way to see the life and its challenge situations as an opportunity to grow and mature our world view. This capacity to be present is such powerful as it is our free will to choose how to respond to any given situation that we need to face.

And how about to use our thoughts as “the waves” that connect us with the life’s script which we want to draw to ourselves? As a frequency of a radio station our thoughts can connect ourselves to the future that we desire, since we are able to be focus in the now, accepting our existence as it is, putting an effort in the small daily actions that can certainly bring us to this state of fulfillment and self-awareness.

The same energy that we spend avoiding what we don’t want or fearing a negative outcome we can use it in the other way around, only to allow ourselves to desire and think what we really want from life, after all, we have nothing to loose by trying a different approach with our reality. The maximum that can happen is to become more conscious about our choices and more aware of our responses to the situations as the only freedom that we really possess.

And here our freedom is reflected in our conscious choices, which come from this awareness that automatically free ourselves to go beyond our self-limited beliefs, allowing us to discover our real purpose in this present time and space. And therefore, our energy will be well spend and it will fulfil ourselves as a human being because we will explore more of our capabilities and hence experience more of our potentialities.